You can’t grow in your comfort zone. This idea has been appearing in my life in several ways lately. I am awake already! Listening. Waiting. Being. But still yearning for transformation. Kinda like watching a pot of water and waiting for it to boil. So in the waiting lies the transformation itself, only we can’t try to get it. Trying gets in the way. So I sit in my discomfort, kind of waddling in it lately and when I notice a yearning, I sit more still and notice some more.
In a recent book I read “Manifesting Change” Mike Dooley says all we need to do is lean in the general direction of our dreams. Lean means taking actions that are consistent with what we want. And that is good enough – we can leave the rest up to the Universe. Which means we will be doing some waiting. Landmark calls the waiting The Gap as in the gap between where you are now and where you would like to be. The art is how you choose to live in the gap. You can live there in your head, thinking about where you want to be, or you can live in each of the moments of the gap gently leaning in the general direction of where you want to be with each choice.
Sometimes those moments of choice will be uncomfortable, out of the comfort zone. I once thought that they all had to feel good if I was doing this all “right”. I wasn’t getting it. Part of it is taking risks that are out of your comfort zone so that you have the chance to grow, to transform. Leaning is sometimes uncomfortable. I had to get comfortable with that idea. And even though I get it more now, it never feels easy. It is not about being easy. Darn it.
In talking with a family member last night we agreed that we are tired of being afraid to lean.
Tired of our same old childlike reactions to life. We feel ready to be ourselves in the world and are beginning to understand what that means. An interesting journey that gets lost with over thinking. It requires grounding. What helps you feel grounded? What helps you feel more present in your body? More now? For me, most weeks, it is taekwondo.
